Who says it has to be that way? Working out with your partner is one of the most effective and satisfying ways to spend time together. Whether it’s in the gym, on the ski hill, in the backcountry, on the tennis court, or in the surf, getting the endorphins running and the muscles working is proven to improve your relationships as well as your sex life. Additionally, a recent Indiana University study cites that couples who exercise together are 34% more likely to show up for workouts than those who work out apart, work out more often, and stick with their regimens longer than their single counterparts do. Wendy Whelihan, a licensed marriage and family therapist goes on to say that working out together “is a way of physically sharing an experience with each other, an often refreshing and much needed alternative to more verbal means of connecting, allowing couples to just be with each other.”
Before you jump into anything full boar, you usually have a plan. Same thing rings true here – how many times will you work out together? What are each other’s fitness goals? It’s a fabulous feeling to see your boyfriend or girlfriend winning in a tennis match or beating the other team in a game of pick-up basketball. But we don’t want to get into an overly competitive workout session with our other half and spend the entire walk or car ride home resenting each other. So, make a plan, challenge each other, and ENJOY IT. Laurie Kendall-Ellis, American Physical Therapy Executive Director of Private Practice writes, “If you’re training for a marathon while your partner is content with leisurely walks, that’s something that should be established beforehand. A good idea is to at least warm up and cool down together, so you can still spend some quality time with one another.” To ensure a successful workout together, here are a few ideas from U.S.NEWS:
1. Switch off being the leader. Two type A personalities attempting to direct the same workout can lead to butting heads. Let one person plan how you’ll spend your half-hour of weights or pick the mountain biking route; think of it as having your own personal trainer, and allow your own brain to shut off.
2. Learn something new together. He’s a spin class veteran, and you’d rather do yoga? Try something totally new for both of you; buy a package of tennis lessons, or join a hiking club. Besides being fun, trying novel activities together is good for your love life.
3. Try activities you can do at different paces. If you’ve run for years but your boyfriend is a newbie, your easy 4-mile jog can be his weekly speed workout. If you both like to cycle, the faster person can sprint ahead, then circle back and ride with the slower one. Or, if you’re at the gym, you can work out on adjoining machines and pick your own pace.
4. Pick different but compatible activities. Working out together doesn’t always mean doing the same thing. Maybe one person wants to use the elliptical machine, and the other wants to lift weights nearby. Or one wants to make a 1-mile loop on in-line skates while the other does faster loops on a bike.
When we work on ourselves and see results, the benefits are reaped not only by us, but by our loved ones as well. This Valentine’s Day is a perfect time to introduce this new activity into your relationship at The Aspen Club & Spa. Sign-up your spouse during the month of February and receive 50% off the initiation fee! Call Membership for details. Get out there, work hard, have fun, and see another side of your partner that you’ve never seen before!